Anti-Bullying Tips
These days, there is a lot of discussion of bullying on the nation’s K-12 campuses. Unfortunately, tragic suicides due to bullying continue. In December, Ronin Shimizu, a 12 year old student, killed himself. Ronin had been a cheerleader at his school; he didn’t fit a gender stereotype; he was a little different. And because of his difference, the kids at school bullied him to death.
Below is a list of tips to help students (and parents) reduce bullying in their schools.
Anti-Bullying: Tips for Students
This checklist provides suggestions for what kids can do when bullying occurs – written for students being bullied, students who witness bullying and the bullies themselves.
IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED…
Reach Out
Tell an adult. Sometimes you may have to tell more than one trusted adult.
Tell your parents. They cannot help you if they do not know what’s happening.
YOU ARE NOT SNITCHING. You are protecting yourself.
Ask your friends to help you. Walk with a friend. There is safety in numbers.
Practice what to say the next time you’re bullied with your parents, teachers or friends.
Be Cool in the Moment
Stay calm and confident. Don’t show the bully that you’re sad or mad.
Ignore the bully and walk away.
Remember: Fighting back can make bullying worse.
Change the School Community
Work with others to stop bully behavior; your whole school will benefit.
Remember: A lot of kids have to cope with bullying. You are not alone. No one deserves to be bullied.
IF YOU WITNESS BULLYING
Interrupt It
Stand next to, or speak up for, the person being bullied.
Ask the bully to stop.
If it is safe, confront the bullying. Tell them to stop. Bullies are rarely confronted. Keep your own safety in mind.
Comfort the person being bullied and offer friendship.
Get Help
Walk away and get help.
Find an adult who can intervene.
IF YOU ARE THE BULLY…
Make a Commitment to Change
Talk to an adult, like a teacher or parent, about how to get along with others.
Ask a friend to help you stop your bully behavior.
Apologize to the kids you have bullied.
Focus on Empathy and Responsibility
Think about what it feels like to be bullied — would you want to be treated that way?
Before you speak, think about whether your words will help or hurt another student.
Change Your Behavior
Resist peer pressure to bully.
If you start to bully, walk away and find something else to do.
Remember: You don’t have to like everyone around you, but you have to treat everyone with respect.
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